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Pre-nuptuials

Posted on 11.15.13

This from the Huffington Post and my comments.

Prenuptial Agreements Are on the Rise, And More Women Are Requesting Them

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/10/22/prenups-_n_4145551.html?utm_hp_ref=divorce&ir=Divorce

As a couples counselor, the issue of pre-nuptial agreements is common. The discussion is usually about whether or not to have one. I have a different slant on the idea of pre-nups. Marrying is adding a legal contract to a relationship. The question isn’t does a couple want a pre-nup. The question is who do you want to write it? Couples really don’t have a choice.

When you marry, you agree to a pre-nup written by the state. If it’s a good idea to read any legal contract before you sign, it’s a good idea to read the one the state offers regarding your marriage and possible divorce. I suggest creating a pre-nup to examine underlying belief systems the couple has about what their marriage will be and to make conscious decisions about divorce based on the personalities of the people involved and not state laws.

If a couple is already married, I often suggest a post-nuptial agreement since circumstances have changed. Again, it’s a good way to more deeply explore the couple’s values, work through differences and if done well, leave each partner feeling more secure.

In my experience, couples who have satisfying relationships have worked out arrangements that differ form the storybook idea of a marriage. Discussing a pre or post-nup is a great way to further create the kind of relationship that feels safe and loving to both parties.

Categories: Blog, Love, Marriage, Modern Culture, Relationships

Comments

  1. Ed Hecht, Divorce and Custody Attorney says

    November 27, 2015 at 12:37 am

    Eddie, this is a great take on PreNups!
    My favorite line: “When you marry, you agree to a pre-nup written by the state.”
    As a family law attorney I often share this with people, though I’ve never described it that way….but I will from now on!

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    • Eddie Reece says

      February 9, 2015 at 3:03 am

      Glad I could be of help Ed!
      I’d like to add that if you’re already married or have a civil union, it’s a good idea to do a post-nup. As circumstances change, so should your legal commitments. I often suggest to couples contemplating divorce to do a post-nup. That way, the can better focus on the other issues of the relationship, by having the financial questions answered.

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